tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4454269961677754112.post2318721162623888841..comments2023-10-31T09:51:59.742-05:00Comments on THIS is what it's all about!: He wept...**** April ****http://www.blogger.com/profile/08306149618224290028noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4454269961677754112.post-1320765732298352192010-10-29T17:46:03.371-05:002010-10-29T17:46:03.371-05:00and I weep too .. omg April.. I'm sorry. Josh&...and I weep too .. omg April.. I'm sorry. Josh's thoughts are so special .. so selfless ..wish we could rub the crystal ball to see how it all works out ..brandt!https://www.blogger.com/profile/11437324940677982556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4454269961677754112.post-57886023759606204842010-10-29T11:04:13.521-05:002010-10-29T11:04:13.521-05:00I don't know why, but I keep hearing Matthew W...I don't know why, but I keep hearing Matthew West's song Two Houses...this is sad...April, I don't know what the deal is with your MIL, but I can say if she was married to anyone like MY father, I wouldn't begrudge her the time to be alone...we all make choices and loving people through their choices is the HARDEST thing we do as Christians. Your poor kids are def. caught in the middle...and Josh is wise beyond his years. I love trememdously how honest you are with your kids. The frankness in good timing is amazing and so beautiful...they are learning a level of relationship building that so many people don't get. Perhaps your MIL hasn't made her needs known...I gather from this that if she expressed a need, she would have people willing to help her get that need fulfilled...women of her generation often put every need on hold and spoke not one word of it, assuming it was their job and responsibility to put their needs at the back of their minds...I know my mom is that way. My mother has recently done a lot of things that I never thought I would see her do, and she has taken herself out from under the burdensome delusion that she is required to put herself on hold to fulfill the needs of others. My dad has not been happy because for the first time in their marriage, she has decided that she will say "no" if she has no interest in something. He's frankly baffled...but she is honest, like you, and manages to tell him "I've never liked this and I'm not going to do it any more." In that way, they are remaining married, just embarking on a new sort of life, where my mom actually has opinions about things and does many things by herself if my dad won't do the things she wants to do. I will definitely be praying for your guys!!! Life is turning a page.chksngrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05744286731018456675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4454269961677754112.post-35867643855720987232010-10-29T08:20:15.368-05:002010-10-29T08:20:15.368-05:00Proof that divorce is terrible at any stage in a m...Proof that divorce is terrible at any stage in a marriage.Joey Lynn Rescinitihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06219074986338894660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4454269961677754112.post-34089841827188299132010-10-29T07:18:39.379-05:002010-10-29T07:18:39.379-05:00April, I have known you a long time and I just wan...April, I have known you a long time and I just want to say that you are such a great mom. I am a child of divorce too. I was fortunate in the face that my mother and my step-mother were best friends after my father re-married. Completely different situation but still unorthodox.<br /><br />I cried this morning when I read your blog. Not for the loss of the marriage, but for the way it is affecting your family. At the same time, to hear Josh's response to the whole thing. You and Andy have done such a great job by (as you say) filtering what your children know that you have taught them to be caring of others. If more people took their roles as parents as serious as you and Andy do, this world would be quite a different place.<br /><br />I just want you to know that I am praying for you and your family. You and Andy are strong and you and your children will learn from this as well as grow from the experience. It may not be the path you have chosen, but you will make it better for your family.<br /><br />Again, I think you are an incredible mom and it makes me smile through the tears to realize it. Love you girl!njpatcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14006975754546002967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4454269961677754112.post-91654559013007408742010-10-29T00:50:03.349-05:002010-10-29T00:50:03.349-05:00I am weeping too. This is something that I can ver...I am weeping too. This is something that I can very much relate to. I have been estranged from my Father since I had Brendan... but throughout my life, things have been very traumatic. My Father is a raging alcoholic and Jay and I refuse to allow him anywhere NEAR our children. My Mother is an enabler and is usually clueless. She still comes and visits Brendan and us but my Father is not welcome. It is still a situation where I don't know what to do... I want to have my Father in my life, just never with the negative energy he carries. I am torn between what is right and what is wrong. It hurts me so bad to know that Brendan may not ever know all about the family life that I want him to have. It makes me sad that things just can't be the way they used to be, back when times were simpler, in the good ol' days. I wish with all my heart that I could have my family in my life to share memories with. I guess the best thing I can do now is make the memories myself, with Jason and our friends and family... the way that we want it to be. I can say that my prayers are always with you on this journey. I am sorry for your pain. My pain is so deep and immense, I still am lost as to what to expect for the future. It kills me. EVERY single day. I know that with time, the answers will come. I have faith. I wish the same for you. This is a hard lesson, this life. It hurts the most when it begins to effect your children and there is nothing that you can do about it. That is the worst part for me. You can want things for them but that doesn't mean they will happen. I just hope that one day, things will become easier for me to figure out. THANK YOU for sharing your story. I send you prayers, love and hugs! xoxoxoxoPassionateJoyfulSoulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13878146537834763480noreply@blogger.com